Intimate Fitness

Intimate Fitness is our ability to thrive, not just survive, in our romantic relationships. Even in what we consider “great” romantic relationships, partners, out of fear of being misunderstood, wanting too much, or guilt and shame, end up presenting false faces to one and other. This results in an inevitably less satisfying relationship because no palpable or “real” intimate energy is exchanged.

This is no place for complacence. You must understand. Any and all Hollywood or pornographic movies pale in comparison to the inner experience you are capable of in a state of absolute intimate “innocence”. To be physically naked, especially once in shape is easy. To be spiritually and emotionally naked is something altogether different. Few strippers or porn stars are able to be so naked and so choose an easier more “covert” path of sexual expression. All perversions and exaggerations of sex arise out of not knowing or understanding how to multiply, blend, expand and extend the orgasm itself.

Ever-increasing sexual satisfaction and spiritual growth can only occur when partners are as raw and real as possible with themselves and each other in this process. Only then do intimate encounters have a chance for the rare occurrence of earth shattering energetic, orgasmic exchanges!

To be “Intimately Fit it is important to truly understand how you and your partner “feel” at the deepest levels.  Underlying feelings undermine intimacy more than anything- even physical issues. Learning to listen, communicate and be honest, “very honest” with each other is the only way to really reap the benefits of better intimacy. This increases intimate potential which can increase the consistency, potency and frequency of, especially her orgasm(s)! You must, and will be capable of both relaxing and arousing your lover to helping each other build up energy for more potent and powerful releases. (Remember, women need to be relaxed to release- at all!) Fully feeling the energy surge and the rush of neuro-chemicals and hormones flooding your system delivering endless health & well- being benefits allows you and your lover to bathe in an incredibly deep connection to your Source.

My work’s purpose is to help you explore, experience and enjoy this gift with each other!

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A deeper orgasm triggers a release of dopamine, serotonin and oxytocin in the reward or pleasure center in the brain. This causes an emotional reset leaving you in a semi coma-like oasis. The deeper and more powerful the orgasm, the deeper and more powerful the release!

Dopamine

Dopamine is the “feel good” chemical released in the reward center of the brain. It is the same chemical released (unnaturally) by cocaine and methamphetamines in unhealthy detrimental doses. It is responsible for the frenzied “falling in love” feeling. Dopamine is the adventure chemical. It is what allows you to “act” romantically. This is what makes men and women want to do crazy things for love. It makes you feel good about what has happened (reward), is happening (current sensation) and what is going to happen (future reward-result). It allows you to be outgoing and assertive.

Serotonin

Serotonin is an opiate. It is the same chemical released (unnaturally) by heroine, barbiturates, alcohol and anti-depressants. It is also released by sugary and carby comfort foods. It is the satisfaction chemical. It allows you to relax, “after the fact”. When you crave comfort foods or retail therapy what you are really craving is serotonin to comfort and anesthetize yourself. A potent orgasm can release serotonin into your system for you. It is one of the reasons you relax after an orgasm feeling more satisfied.

Oxytocin

Oxytocin is known as the love hormone or cuddle chemical and causes women to want to be close and intimate and facilitates bonding. It is the chemical basis for our capacity and longing for romantic attachment and causes feelings of love, tenderness and wellbeing. For men, oxytocin can make him more loving, caring and affectionate but he needs enough testosterone to balance it out so as to not become too effeminate. A good example of oxytocin in a male would be Dick Vermeil, the former coach of the St. Louis Rams football team who constantly hugged and cried with his team all the way up to his Super Bowl victory.

Both sexes experience a burst of creative thought since orgasm produces a powerful surge in the right, creative-thinking side of the brain but with women, a prolonged period of exhaustion follows, and usually sleep. This is how a man can tell if a woman has really had an orgasm, especially a potent one. In fact, because women get a bigger dose of oxytocin in great sex the exact opposite occurs—he may feel energized and she falls asleep!

Testosterone

Is incredibly important for men and is released when men relax (ie hanging out on the couch) or sleep which is the reason men wake up- well how should we say, up! Testosterone has been found to increase when men sense new potential mates. Although it explains, why men tend to wander, it doesn't mean it is bad for monogamy as long as the couple learns to "keep it new and keep it real!"

Lack of testosterone typically equals lack of sex drive in both men and women and  results in increased aging. Oxytocin, alhtough good for a relationship, is bad for testosterone in men and actually decreases it and along with it a mans interest in sex- with the woman he becomes close to. So-, it is important to be careful and either increase testosterone through supplementing to counter the oxytocin or increase "guy time"!